They happen all the time – a car crash, a broken dish, a spill, a fall. These are examples of things that most of us would call accidents, unfortunate events that occur that were not planned. My dictionary defines accident two ways: “an unfortunate incident that happens unexpectedly and unintentionally, typically resulting in damage or injury” and “an event that happens by chance or that is without apparent or deliberate cause”.
While out the other day, on two separate occasions, my husband and I heard two separate parents discuss to others how one of their children was “an accident”. One was a mother and her third child, a daughter, was in ear shot, whiles she shared that she was an accident. The other was a father, who was discussing his wife’s pregnancy with their second, due in February, also an accident.
On both occasions, it grieved our hearts to hear such words.
I do not believe we are being overly sensitive here either.
First of all, by definition, the term accident makes no sense when speaking of a child or a pregnancy. We cannot say that a conception is an unfortunate incident, as we are discussing someone’s life, and who are we to decide that anyone’s life is unfortunate, much less to say it results in damage? Perhaps a confession can be made that the sexual act itself was an accident, as the perhaps the parties weren’t married, and should not have been together. That is something that fits the “unfortunate incident” part of the definition of accident, and yet the parties likely entered the act with intention, so then the term accident still doesn’t fit. Regardless, the resulting conception, that is never an accident. We cannot say that a conception happens by chance, if we believe the Bible. Jer 1:5 (before I formed you in the womb) comes to mind, among many other verses such as Is 44:2, Ps 139:16, Job 31:15 to list a few.
I have been thinking about a succinct response to say to people when I hear them discuss their children as accidents, as it pains me hear such talk. Additionally, it is painful for the child to hear. I once had a conversation with soon that even making a comment like “my quiver is full” in front of your children insinuates that somehow they have “maxed you out”, “stretched you to your limits” and that you certainly would not wish another child into your home. Is that not a most unpleasant and unloving message to give? What must the children think that hear it? That they are burdens? Too much of a nuisance?
We need to think before we speak. A conception is in no way an accident. The next time I hear someone speak that way, I will say “An accident? Like an unfortunate automobile collision? No, a precious baby that will change your life for the better, and enhance your very purpose for being. That is no accident!”
There was an article floating around my facebook newsfeed that I could not help respond to. We read the same Scriptures, yet come to different conclusions, and I find that to be so frustrating. There are not multiple truths, and GOD wants to reveal HIs truth to us. I was particularly passionate about the subject for a few reasons. After 2 pregnancy losses in 2011, and 13 months of crying out to the LORD, we are finally blessed with a pregnancy. We are absolutely over-joyed and thrilled beyond measure. Additionally, I love to debate, and debating is especially invigorating when backed with the Scriptures. This is a controversial subject, although I don’t believe it should be, and I hope you glean from the debate. Love Michelle +1(2?)
Here is the article I am responding to:
How Many Children Should We Have?
- Tim Challies
I have written often on the subject of knowing and doing the will of God. Sometimes, though, particular situations arise in which we need very specific applications of those general principles. A reader of this site recently asked me about how to think about how many children to have. Here is what he wrote:
The topic of deciding on family size and what’s right for your family has come up among ourselves and our friends. It seems different for everyone. On the basic level, we know that God calls us to be fruitful and multiply and we know that to be a parent is an unselfish act as you give your time to parenthood. Yet big families are not for everyone and can cause problems in certain situations.
Let me explain how I go about thinking through this issue. The first thing I look for is clear and specific guidance from the Bible. Is there a clear command in the Bible that tells me that I must have as large a family as possible? And conversely, is there a clear command in the Bible that tells me that I must limit the size of my family? To my knowledge and understanding there is no clear command in either case. In the absence clear and specific commands from God, I am now out of the realm of absolute right and wrong; I am now free from being blatantly disobedient if I choose to have two children or if I choose to have twenty children. But this does not mean that I can now just do whatever I feel like.
In the absence of clear moral commands, my calling is to act wisely and to act in accordance with biblical principles, so my next action is to look to the Bible for principles that may guide me as I consider this issue. Here are a few that come to mind:
Be Fruitful and Multiply. God created human life and as one of man’s primary roles told him to “be fruitful and multiply.” It is our duty as humans to procreate and our special duty as Christians to fill the earth with people who know and love the Lord. Therefore it is reasonable to say that as a general principle God expects that a husband and wife will have at least some children.
Children Are a Blessing. The Bible is clear that we are to regard children as a blessing and not as a burden. Psalm 127 tells us that “children are a heritage from the LORD, The fruit of the womb is a reward.” Where our culture may see children as a financial, emotional or psychological burden, the Bible tells us that they are a blessing and a reward. Further, Many Children Is a Great Blessing. God gave no conditions to his command that we be fruitful and multiply. He did not say “multiply up to and including eight children at which point you must stop.” At the same time he did not say “be fruitful and multiply until you have exceeded two children.” We are given no rules about how many children are appropriate in God’s eyes. We do hear hints, though, that God approves of large families and that many children represent a special blessing. Psalm 127 continues, “Like arrows in the hand of a warrior, So are the children of one’s youth. Happy is the man who has his quiver full of them.” Many children represent many blessings.
God Is Sovereign. God is absolutely sovereign, having foreordained every birth. Whether a woman has one children or seven or seventeen, God has decreed the beginning and end of each pregnancy. It is the Lord who opens and closes the womb and he makes no mistakes. Every pregnancy has in some way been a part of his plan and his will.
These are all principles pertaining to children; there are also principles that pertain to life and marriage.
Life Is Valuable. All of the Bible values human life and we can thus have confidence that if a mother’s very life is at stake in a pregnancy, we ought to protect her life, even if that means ensuring that she has no more pregnancies. This means that there must be at least one instance in which it is objectively right and good to limit family size.
Live in an Understanding Way. 1 Peter instructs husbands to live with their wives “in an understanding way.” One way a husband may be able to be understanding toward his wife is to help her from being overwhelmed by the number of children in her care. Some women are naturally equipped to deal with huge families and others simply are not. A husband and wife ought to discuss this and decide between them how they have been equipped by the Lord.
There are Different Callings. The Lord calls different people to very different lives. It may be that a couple called to be missionaries to a third-world nation may find that fourteen or fifteen children would make them unable to fulfill their calling. A couple will want to consider family size in the context of how they are serving God and his church.
Once I have pondered these principles and others like them, and once I have worked on applying them to my life and marriage, I am now free to act in accordance with my conscience and my desires, knowing that the Lord is pleased. I am now free to act in the way that brings me joy, provided that I am looking for joy in the Lord and not a fleeting counterfeit of joy. If I long to have a huge family, and if my wife has the same longing, we have complete freedom before the Lord to have as many children as he grants us. If three children seems just right, we have freedom to stop right there.
But even as I do this, I need to keep an eye on the principles laid out in Romans 14, that if I am not careful I may find myself despising or condemning Christians who have chosen the very opposite of what I am have chosen. (This articlediscusses those specific temptations.) The decision I make ought to be right for my family, but I have no business making a decision on behalf of someone else and then despising or condemning them.
Like so many areas of the Christian life, the Lord gives us freedom to choose how many children we will have. He gives us the principles we need to know how to live in this world for his glory, and having done that, he now grants us freedom to apply those principles very differently from person to person and couple to couple. And in all of this he is good.
HERE IS MY RESPONSE TO THIS ARTICLE
While it is true that there is no clear command to either have a large or a small family, there is a clear to command to be fruitful and multiply. He added no more and no less to that statement. We are told to not add nor take away from His Word. Why then would we assume that He meant “until you feel comfortable” at the end of that fairly well repeated command?
If He opens and closes the womb, which He says that He does repeatedly throughout Scripture, and none of us will dispute that, then why would we try to hinder Him with various forms of birth control, in the face of His indisputably clear directive?
It is completely true that it does not mean you must have a small or a large family. It rather means that you are walking in trust that He will open or close your womb, according to His plan and pleasure, and that you are open to whatever that is.
It does not mean that you are open some months/years, and not others, as where is the trust in that? Where also is the obedience?
I disagree in your statement that there is no moral standard set. There is. The biblical theme regarding fertility is clear:
-Be fruitful and multiply
-He opens and closes the womb
-It was a significant curse to hinder fertility that He used at various different times in various nations, whereas His blessing always indicated the blessing of life, and this happened repeatedly.
-He is a God of Life, and He always says children are a blessing, and when should His people not seek His blessing?
-He also promises that He will not give any of us more than we can handle, does He not?
-He also provides after, and not before, the need exists, according to many Scriptures in many situations.
That leave us with the decision to believe that what He says is either true or it is not, to either trust Him or not, and to believe that He will keep His word or live in fear that He will not.
I particularly take issue with this:
“There are Different Callings. The Lord calls different people to very different lives. It may be that a couple called to be missionaries to a third-world nation may find that fourteen or fifteen children would make them unable to fulfill their calling. A couple will want to consider family size in the context of how they are serving God and his church.”
If He calls, does He not enable according to His word? He will not contradict His commands. One cannot say that he/she serves the Lord while neglecting to admit that the command was given to be fruitful and multiply, and was never rescinded. Furthermore, Malachi 2:15 makes it clear that He joins a man and wife together to make a godly seed. He does not join a couple together to see them decide to refuse to have godly seed by taking their fertility into their less than competent hands. “Lean not on your own understanding” and “all we like sheep go astray” and “your ways are not my ways” are all verses that come to mind when I hear people think they know when or if a child should be ‘planned’. “We have a brain, we need to use it” is commonly heard, yet we are told to NOT lean on our own understanding, but rather His.
After all , who is the Author of Life? How do you biblically confess your right to not be open to whatever the Lord ordains for your wife’s womb? Especially in light of the fact that ALL but natural family planning and abstinence are true and real abortifacient forms of birth control? In addition, a family with children serving in the field has that many more available to witness than does a “by choice” childless couple sacrificing one command to fulfill another.
In truth and honesty, the reasons offered to limit fertility are predominantly selfish, or fear based. In addition, they then often use birth control that, in their ignorance, abort fertilized eggs. Furthermore, we are told to not fear repeatedly all throughout Scripture. Fear and/or selfishness are the main reasons behind limiting fertility. It is rarely due to true medical concerns to the mother, some of which are unfounded anyway.
How sad to not have the faith to just trust that the Lord is truly sovereign, and is the best judge for every family’s size. He truly does not require human assistance in the area. He will visit you and grant conception, or He will not. For me, that is all there is to it. Why must we think He couldn’t possibly know best, and must require our assistance in the bringing forth or prevention of new life. In the age prior to artificial birth control, even natural family planning was questioned as moral.
Today, even confessing Christians abort embryos with the pill and various other life and health robbers. And many churches support this. Heartbreaking indeed. It is really endorsing fear and selfishness in almost every single case, with only the rare exception. Folks just want to hear what keeps them nice and comfy.
The Bible also speaks of when to be together intimately as man and wife, and when not to. Incidentally, the most fertile time in a woman’s cycle is when the Lord says that they should/could be one together. Of course, we know this is not coincidence. In addition, a woman’s libido is highest at her ovulation time, again by design which has a divine purpose, I am sure.
You also say:
“Like so many areas of the Christian life, the Lord gives us freedom to choose how many children we will have. He gives us the principles we need to know how to live in this world for his glory, and having done that, he now grants us freedom to apply those principles very differently from person to person and couple to couple. And in all of this he is good.”
He is good, however, I do not agree that this freedom you speak of was afforded, or can be biblically backed with any strength. It was common throughout Scripture to call out for the blessing of children, never the opposite as we see so often today. In fact I find nothing to ever indicate someone wishing for less, or no, children in all the entirety of Scripture. How far we have fallen! Today we are “inconvenienced, burdened, stretched, and tired” by our children. It must grieve the Lord.
I am not surprised that people love your article as it gives them complete freedom to act according to their own will, but is it truly based on sound biblical truth? I think not. I find nothing in Scripture to support my right to attempt to close my womb. In fact, quite the opposite. It more shows my lack of faith in His adequacy in provision for me and mine when I think taking my fertility into my feeble hands is wise.
You also say:
“Life Is Valuable. All of the Bible values human life and we can thus have confidence that if a mother’s very life is at stake in a pregnancy, we ought to protect her life, even if that means ensuring that she has no more pregnancies. This means that there must be at least one instance in which it is objectively right and good to limit family size.”
I disagree with this logic. As Rachel cried out for another son to the Lord, and was granted one, she then later died in childbirth to that same son. Her son being, of course, one of the 12 tribes of Israel. Perhaps a wife’s calling is to bring forth another life, that has a big plan in God’s redemptive history. Each of our days is written. Again, our thinking is so obviously not His. “But the mother is needed to raise the child!” they cry and yet, not even Moses, who talked to God face to face, was afforded that privilege.
In addition, the over-population excuse to limiting fertility is an exceptionally poor myth that the educated know to be irrelevant and completely unfounded. The sources are too numerous to cite now for this information, but many authors have written the stats to dispel such nonsense. I do hope some of the commentators refer to the facts.
Furthermore, your statement:
“We are given no rules about how many children are appropriate in God’s eyes. We do hear hints, though, that God approves of large families and that many children represent a special blessing”
The rule is not there simply because He will open and close the womb according to His plan and purpose. He only asks that we trust and obey, leaning not on our own understanding, valuing what He values, and not selecting His word to match our comfort zone.
If He values life, and children, and sees them as a blessing, how can we then say, “No Lord, not today, not right now, I want no more, I’m not equipped, I’m not ready, I’m too young, too old, too poor”?
Is He not the Provider, the Equipper, the Creator, the Potter?
May we be the clay, instead of the grumbling and disgruntled Israelites that walked in such short faith in the desert.
We are to be stewards, yes, and I truly believe that Scriptures support, and God is pleased with, those able to trust Him with whatever life He choses to bring forth through them.
Sadly there is infertility, and always has been, and this is part of living in a fallen world. But to desire it when you feel your quiver is full, and to claim it as good, and then try to back it with His Word and His blessing? Well, that puts me way out of my comfort zone. I would not want that responsibility on me.
Just as we are told to tithe first, and live off the rest in faith that we will make it financially, so it is with fertility. And money is so much less significant than raising godly seed! Yet we would confront a Christian refusing to tithe, as one walking in an unscriptural manner. Yet we condone couples on the pill in the church!
How can one refuse to offer their bodies as living sacrifices, willing to bear seed if He sees fit, and refuse to trust that if a child arrives, the Sovereign Lord will manage the details. A tithe is not a life, and we are told to trust Him with that. How much more with an eternal life!
Although some of your article was quite informative, I believe you missed some very key biblical points. I hope you reconsider.
Sincerely, Michelle Kauenhofen
I have a confession. Sometimes my attitude needs a little (or a lot of ) work. This past Sunday saw me pathetically attempting to get to church. The week had been exhausting, in absolutely every sense of the word. We had been dealing with some illness in the house, some sewer back up, and a critically ill parent in the hospital. Our daily routines were out the window, and survival mode had settled in. My sister was staying with us from out of town for the week. She had flown in specifically so that she could have her last visit with our Dad. We were all extremely busy, and emotionally spent.
Sunday morning saw me bleary eyed and wiped out. I struggled to get myself together for the forty minute trek to church. My husband and three of our children had sore tummies, and my older ones were at work. I could find two children to come along that could be ready on time. Out the door we went.
Two miles into the drive saw me wondering if I was really up for it. I actually hate to drive, even at the best of times. I much prefer to be chauffeured, and today the highway was icy , snow covered, and there was blowing snow. I was feeling tired, worn down and weak. Another two miles in and my eight year old asked, “Mummy, why can we only see a little bit in front of us? It is all white.”
I wondered what was wrong with me. Why was I continuing to drive in this low visibility? Was it really so important? Shouldn’t I just turn around? Then my thoughts turned slightly bitter. “This better be worth it. I better not be going in, just to end up disappointed.”
See? I told you my attitude needed work.
Not even three miles passed after I had thought those thoughts, and suddenly the highway was clear, and there were no more visibility issues. I was humbled. It was like God Himself was showing favour to me, assuring me that I was on the right track. Even in my grumbling spirit, He was patiently and lovingly teaching me.
I learned the lesson before I even heard the sermon that morning. Sometimes I just have to push on a bit further, stretch out of my comfort zone, and trust that He will bless those efforts. He does not leave or forsake me, and I need to trust Him more. I was so grateful for the lesson, and His patience with me that morning. I truly felt that I had met with the Lord, right there on the highway.
What more could I have asked for on this Sunday morning? I had received a revelation, and I had learned something powerful. I felt loved and protected by my Father’s heavenly care. He had assured me that He can always be trusted, and my drive was without incident. But guess what? He did not stop there, because He is such an abundant, amazing God. He is forever doing way more for His children than they can even imagine. And that is what He did for me this past Sunday morning.
After our little visit together on the drive, I proceeded to church, where I sat and heard one of THE best sermons of my life. Definitely one of the top 10, hands down.
God is so good, all the time.
Rebellion is that all too common, yet little spoken of dilemma that many parents face. Few discuss it, as shame often surrounds it. Yet, it is real, it is happening, and it is often more prevalent than we want to believe or admit. It comes in many forms, but it basically boils down to a child making choices that are not in line with the types of choices that the parents would like to see.
It is one of the most painful things to experience as a parent. Parents often feel that they have poured out their very hearts and souls into the training and nurturing of these children, only to have it spurned. The heartbreak is very real and overwhelming, especially the first time it occurs! The shock, the horror, the questioning, the shame, the guilt, the mortification, the worry, the panic, and the sorrow all roll in like the tide, and the current attempts to suck us under!
But the story does not end there.
I once wrote to a woman that was struggling with her wayward teen. I said, “we trust our Father to be the best parent there is, and to draw our children to Himself, in due time. They are children that know the Word, and the Word will not come back void!”
I was then challenged by a different woman that questioned my statement with this, “the Word is also a two-edged sword, bringing some to God, and cutting some away. Having believing parents is not a guarantee for the child to be saved.”
Perhaps you are feeling the same sentiment. Wondering if your child will ever come to faith, or change his or her course? Maybe you are feeling like a parental failure, and blaming yourself for this unfortunate turn of events. Well, these are some of my thoughts on the matter.
Of course, none of us can guarantee the salvation of our children. That goes without saying. Having believing parents guarantees nothing eternally, and we must accept the Sovereignty of God. But that is also not the end of the story.
I do believe that we must continue to hope beyond hope. I take my cue from 1 Corinthians 13:4-8: “Love is patient, love is kind…it keeps no record of wrongs. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails.” I do believe that our children, born and raised in the covenant as children of believers and taught from the Word, will return. I will always trust and always hope, because a man that doubts is useless, and his prayers will not be answered, as is so clearly stated in James 1:5-6.
We as parents must believe that what we ask for will be done, when what we ask for is in the will of God, and God says it is not his will that any children should be lost. (Matt 18). However, I KNOW that this does not mean that all children shall be saved. So now what?
Well, what good does it do for a distraught parent to think her child is destined for hell? I think it is better to believe that the child will return, even if not until their death bed, because love hopes all things, believes all things, as I have already stated. We are to be an encouragement to each other, a hand and foot, helping each other in these trying times.
So I encourage you with the fact that we do not know if, even after our deaths, our children may come back and acknowledge all of the ways, and the Word, that they were originally trained in! What a wonderful thought! I don’t think this is living in denial either. I think that it is living in hope, and in the belief of the mighty power and love of God. If I die, and I am wrong and one of my precious children has been eternally damned, then I will be in heaven by then, where there is no pain and no tears. While here on this sin infested earth, I will choose to believe that God will draw in the children that are trained and taught in His word, in His time, using life to mold and shape them into the clay that is fit for His use.
While I live, I will hope for the best, recognizing that it is not a guarantee. I will also encourage other parents to continue to do their jobs as mothers, and to not give in to despair, or acceptance of their child’s waywardness, but to continue in hope and love and belief. This is better for their own mental health, as well as for the parent-child relationship.
I do KNOW in my head that not all are saved, but I CHOOSE to BELIEVE that He will not have His word come back void in regards to our children, even if they do not realize the error of their ways until the last moments of breath they have here on earth. This may not always happen in reality, but the hope will carry most parents through life, and will keep the relationship with them and their children moving in a positive direction, and keep the parents pleading the case before the Father. I see nothing wrong with having love and hope that believes all things, 1 Cor 13:7.
In regards to parental guilt, may I remind you of the several kings in the Old Testament that were godly, yet had ungodly sons? The Scriptures say the parents were godly, and walked in the ways of the Lord, yet the child did not. Sometimes, it really has very little to do with you, as a parent. This is not to say that we as parents are not making mistakes. Of course we are, but God, the Sovereign King of all creation, makes none.
I think sometimes we must go through some things in life before we get to the place of humbling ourselves before our Great King. Sometimes we don’t humble ourselves until we lay on our deathbeds, recognizing our need for salvation, and feeling all our regrets of a life filled with mistakes. Perhaps this may be one of our children’s testimonies, although we fervently pray for a better one!
I also think that people that have gone through more tend to have excellent counsel to offer others, and are less inclined to be judgemental, because they recognize that the process of life and faith can at times be ugly, long and drawn out. Those that have never been truly “tried” often have little compassion on the backslidden or wayward. In fact, they tend to have disdain only. That is ungodly.
The only way to help bring someone back as a human, in my opinion, is through love, because without a solid and loving relationship, there is no avenue to speak into their lives. This is why love is such a HUGE part of God’s commandments.
I think that the community that has no relationship with the wayward often does more harm than good, as relationship and love is key. Lip service is not enough, and being preached at won’t work either, without a loving relationship. Saying we love the brethren is one thing, but feeling it on both sides is another. If a shepherd/elder/believer goes after the wayward, but never really had a relationship of love to stand on in the beginning, I don’t see a lot of good coming out of it. The person must feel loved for who they are, not just expected to conform in order to be loved. They must feel that the concern is legitimate.
To better illustrate my point, the parable in Matthew 18 about the lost sheep talks about shepherds and sheep. The shepherd knew his sheep well, cared for them daily, fed them, walked with them, listened to them, tended to them, healed them, carried them, again I say daily. To be a shepherd over a sheep, lost or otherwise, you are in a close and intimate relationship. This is how you tend to them! Through your close relationship!
Jesus, at the end of Matthew 18, says treat the sinner as a pagan or tax collector if they don’t listen. Yet, pagans and tax collectors were often who He visited and dined with. I don’t think we are to completely shun them. He didn’t, he ministered to them regularly, and humbly, not as someone proud, and he always did so in love and gentleness.
Parenting wouldn’t be the adventure it is without all the twists and turns to keep us humble! None of us will ever have it all figured out, and that is okay with me. We may have no need of a Saviour otherwise. The story for me ends here. A parent must maintain relationship, hope and believe all things, and pray fervently with anticipation for the salvation and restoration of her wayward child. Right unto death. Who knows the final outcome? While I live and breathe, I say again, the Word that has been poured out, will not come back void. Amen! To quote my dear friend Aly, in regards to not seeing all your children in heaven: “not acceptable..no way did you have a babe from the Lord that won’t be with the Lord in the end. Absolutely no way.” I end with Aly’s quoted verse, Acts 16:31 NASB ” They said, “Believe in the Lord Jesus, and you will be saved, you and your household.” Love Michelle
As I scanned one of my children’s closets, I questioned why I had been hanging on to a dress that I hadn’t put on any of my girls for years. Of course, you know how it goes, one thought leads to the next.
I then wondered why I hang on to many things around the house . You know the kind of things that I mean. Things that I may never need or use, but hang on to just in case that moment ever comes where I find myself needing it. That moment never arrives for at least ninety percent of those items!
That thought rather uncomfortably led to the next thought.
Why do I hang on to certain unhelpful memories and thoughts that clutter up my brain?
Surely my mind is far more valuable than my home and my cupboards and my closets!
Surely I should be cleaning it out, and not letting it get cluttered up with thoughts that I shouldn’t even be hanging on to!
Some of those thoughts I hang on to actually serve me only in a negative sense! In actual fact, they can at times bring destruction! They can prevent the progress of a relationship with someone, or hinder my relationship with God.
Why do I hang on to so many things and thoughts that I don’t need?
As I pondered this, I realized that this is likely why we are exhorted to take every thought captive to obedience to Christ.
“Casting down imaginations, and every high thing that exalts itself against the knowledge of God, and bringing into captivity every thought to the obedience of Christ” 2 Cor 10:5
Some of those thoughts that float around and are quietly pondered in my mind are in desperate need of being taken captive and jailed!
Or even capital punished if truth be told!
You know the kind of thoughts I mean. Those thoughts that tear you down or tear down someone else. The thoughts that convince you that everything is worse than it actually is. Judgemental thoughts, self-condemning thoughts, bitter thoughts, self-pity thoughts, thoughts that are filled with annoyance. The thoughts that are full of nothing but pure negativity! They serve no good purpose and are destructive to your joy and peace! Not only that, but thoughts like that prove an attitude exists that lacks gratitude. They are the thoughts that forget the truth about who we are and what we have in Christ!
Time for me to quit hanging on to junk and junky thoughts! Time to start taking some captors!
Look out useless thoughts, the jail guard is on duty and ready to lock up all you useless, destructive thoughts! No more thoughts running rampant expressing themselves in my mind allowed! No more junk hanging on to my brain space! I am taking every thought captive, and monitoring all my self-talk into obedience to Christ! God will certainly be my very present help in this endeavour!